school bullying

Do you often feel that getting bullied is one of the worst things that can ever happen to a school goer? But you are not alone as most kids your age feel that way.

Bullying is big trouble and most kids go through it in one way or the other that makes them feel hurt, scared, sick, and sad.

Why do some kids bully other kids?
  • They look for attention.

  • They want to feel big and powerful.

Who do bullies pick on?
  • They might pick on kids who get upset easily as getting a big reaction out of someone can make them feel like they have the power they want.

  • They pick on someone who is smarter than they are or different from them in some way.

  • Sometimes they pick on a kid for no reason at all.

How to handle bullies?

Avoid the bully – Take no chances with a bully. As much as you can, avoid him/her. For example, take a different route to avoid the bully or hang around with friends who make you feel strong and confident.

Be confident and brave – When you look scared or weak, the bullies tend to trouble you. So stand tall and put on a “don’t mess with me” look. If the bully tries a trick, tell him/her that you don’t like that in a strong voice.

Feel good about yourself – Do what you can to feel good about yourself. That would make you feel confident too! It could be eating healthy food, dressing well, playing outdoor games, skipping TV to get some good sleep, learning a new hobby etc.

Ignore the bully – Always remember that bullies expect a big reaction to their teasing, so just avoid their threats. You can pretend like you don’t hear them and walk away quickly to a place of safety. Your “I don’t care” attitude might stop a bully from troubling you.

Don’t bully back – Don’t try to hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you. It will only make matters worse.

Tell an adult – If you are being bullied, it’s very important to tell an adult. Find someone you trust and tell them what is happening to you. Teachers, principal and parents can all help to stop bullying. Sometimes bullies stop as soon as a teacher finds out because they’re afraid that they will be punished.

The Role of a Parent Who is Being Bullied

If your child complains of being bullied by students in school, take it seriously and address the issue immediately. Here are a few ways to help you with dealing the problem.

Be patient and calm – You may get upset over your child being bullied. But showing off rage will not help matters. Be calm and try to handle things patiently and professionally.

Talk to your child – You can advise your child to follow the tips meant to handle bullying. Most importantly don’t encourage your child to fight against the bully as it would bring more trouble.

Report the bullying to the school – Contact the school principal or your child’s teacher and report the situation your child is being put into by other kid(s). It would be the best option to sort and stop bullying.

Author: Sim K